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Why Do Nigerian Men Cheat?
Author: Staff | May 12, 2009
Any time I ask a Nigerian man out to a party his first response is always, "are there going to be plenty girls there?". What do they take us for? It is... (18) Comment


 
   

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Juel Thomas    Williamsburg, USA    June 26, 2007
I met a Nigerian man at a local store in my area. I live in a tourist town. My first question was was he waiting for his wife and child. He replied that he was not married. We started a month long phone relationship. A lot of I love u's and planning a life together only to find out he was married. A lot of Nigerian men are married to women while they await their greencard but have begun building a life with other women. They are liers, and do not trust them. My heart was broken because I fell in love with him only to find out he has already a wife. I will never trust another Nigerian Man. And he is here under a false name. The name he uses is not his real name.
EKO SISTA    balbriggan, ireland    April 29, 2007
I find it facinating that people (men in general) blame the women for cheating, yes i agree that women cheat men are worse and for very stupid reasons.

what do they men by ladies dressing provocatively, hello u can look but dont touch, I agree with what one person said that most ladies will go out with a guy even when they know that they are married or in a commited relationship.

u know what they are? Stupid because what ever they sow you shall reap, they will definately get married one day and God help them when their husbands start cheating on them.

Most women who cheat do so out of greed or lack of contentment,so i speak to say they do it because their husband are never there for them. Whatever the situation it is wrong to cheat it is a sin before man and God
Ade Yankee    ,     January 24, 2007
I think we should take a critical look at the psychological difference between a man and a woman. That will give us a background to the whys?

I am not a psychologist but I tend to be objective when it comes to issues like this. I based my objectivity on what has been researched, tested and practicable.

It is widely known that men are moved by sight. We tend to react at what we see. Now, women have capitalised on that and came with all sorts of thought provoking and eye popping "so-called" fashion attires.

They say their intention is not to seduce but to feel good. I quite agree with that but the act contributes to the issue at hand. Only solution is if all men in the world will go blind (God forbid).

On the other hand, women are moved by sound (what they hear). That gives rise to the act we know as "toasting" (verbal wooeing). Also if you ask a lady what she wants in man, she is likely to mention security first before other things.

Security translatest to the financial ability of the man to supply whatever her imagination conjours. There is absolutely nothing wrong about it but everything has to be done in moderacy such that caution and commonsense will not be thrown to the winds.

Both sexes need to evolve to the level of being able to control all these naturally innate desires and to set boundaries. Not being able to do this and wanting to fully "express" ourselves results in cheating. We should also know that cheating comes in various forms and we all are guilty of it consciously or unconsciously.
ola SEUN    london, England    January 20, 2007
men cheat cos ladies cant satisfy us sexually and emotionally and women moan to much and accuse u of things that u have not done.

also until women hold there corner and do what they are told to do the world will be a better place!
Skinner.    Greater Manchester., United Kingdom.    January 20, 2007
Hey,common lets be sincere to ourselves, both men and women are guilty of this.

I cant understand why our dear author is being sentimental about the all whole thing,to our general understanding,it is not possible for a man to take himself to bed all alone without engaging the opposite sex( Female ) so what the hell are we blaming the men for.

this is just an attempt to give the dog a bad name.I rather see this issue as general and should not be made personal for goodness sake.
Onyx    Vienna, Austria    January 20, 2007
Cheating is a mystery no one can unravel..it started right from the inception of the world....

I am not trying to justify it though, but it is often derived from wicked spirits.
Sara    Croydon, England    December 16, 2006
The Nigerian men I know cheat on their women, even the ones who seem like attentive family men.

When caught red-handed, they continue to protest their innocence, no matter how ridiculous their story.

I discovered that my Ex was registered with several internet dating agencies, even while begging me to start a family with him. Of course, he denied it, even when I showed him his profiles! He is a regular churchgoer, and very convincing when he wants to be.

Perhaps, we should set up a name and shame Nigerian men website. At least then, if we are foolish enough to accept their offer of a date, we can screen them first!

Beware, ladies of the name, Maxwell, as he presently on the lookout for a replacement for his main woman!
OMOTAYO, J. A.    Lagos, NIGERIA    December 01, 2006
One fact that is often forgotten is that the said cheating does not happen between a man and a man (gay). It is normally between a man and a woman. In other words, every party to it whether a man or a woman is guilty of the same offence. Man does not act alone. The so called woman or girl friend is also often aware that the other party is married.

Man differs from animal very slightly when the issue of sexual relations come in. Feelings (pleasure, emotions, fantasies, etc) often sway free persons of opposite sex into relationships even when not prepared for it.

This freedom is the issue. How can it be restricted? Only a very deep sense of love acn do that. In a society where the wife deceives the husband everyday, everytime and everywhere, the deep sense of love is eroded. the same applied to the woman or the girl friend too.
Nini    London, UK    August 31, 2006
So these cheating Nigerian men, who do they cheat with exactly? Saints? Have Nigerian girls not given up their dignity and morals in exchange for gifts and cash? If we, as women (be it single or married) did not give the men with roving eyes the chance to cheat on their wives, would we be in the mess we are in now? Lets not pretend the issues lies solely with the men. No! we share equal blame, Its our sisters and daughters and even ourselves bringing shame and pain upon us all. The next time a married man requests for your company...how about you tell him you are not one to get involved with married men. Perhaps if all women did that, there will be no one for the men to cheat with.

And to all the dumb sistas out there playing "second wife" and "second fiddle" to married men, I hope you know your time of pain is coming. Yes, I said it!
A    Nottingham, United Kingdom    August 29, 2006
I am a Sri Lankan girl who was with a Yoruba man for 3 years...and I learnt today that he has cheated on me throughout the entire 3 years with different women!!! Is this what Nigerian men are like? Im not trying to generalise or anything.....but he is proud of what he has been able to do and even flatly and proudly denies ever cheating....even when I have proof from all the women he has been with!!! I dont think there is ever a justification for cheating....its all a matter of choice....and a man makes the choice to stray and be unfaithful.........Ive had it with Nigerian men.......!!!
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