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Unfaithful - If I Catch My Wife Cheating
Author: Emily | March 09, 2007

A fortnight ago, I was watching a program on TV - my favorite TV show -, on this particular occasion the topic was  "If you catch your wife... (11) Comment



 
   

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Kayode    Dayton Ohio, USA    September 10, 2007
First I think the comments I have read by most of the men above have been rather immature and selfish. What should she do if the situation were reversed? The golden rule for ALL human relationships as exemplified by christ is "DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WILL WANT THEM TO DO UNTO YOU"

The question is what will I do as a man in such a situation where the wife is the offender.

Adultery on the part of the man or the woman is NEVER excusable! There should never be any reason enough for a man or woman to find love elsewhere apart from one's spouse. After all he/she promised to love, cherish till death do you part. Now if you did not promise your spouse this before you married them then that may be your reason why you went into adultery.

Well it will be time for me and her to have an honest serious discussion as to why such should happen. Where did I miss it or where did she miss it in the relationship? What are the underlying reasons. It may well be that the man is not meeting her emotional needs or some other need and not that she just wanted to sleep around. What I am saying is that as a man I would want to find out why first!!


Other deciding factors is the wife's attitude after the affair. Is she repentant and willing and able to cut off all such relationship(s). Is she ready to come out with the whole truth. Is she holding back or telling all? Is there any real guarantee that some lesson has been learnt and it will never happen again?


The thing is that we all make mistakes and we should remember that sometime somewhere down the line, we all make mistakes and our Father in Heaven forgives us daily when we ask Him.

If things can be worked out between husband and wife and they still love each other, then let there be forgiveness and renewal of their vows to each other.

Her unfaithfulness is no reason to become verbally or physically abusive to her. If you as a man cannot live with her after such an incident, then perhaps you need some time apart to re-evaluate your priorities and feelings for your wife and family.
funmi    lagos, Nigeria    August 21, 2007
well i think men are just beeen very wicked. women are to be taken care of properly if they are they wont lok else where and never will they think of having anither affair. but men will always sleep around and do all sort of rubbish dat is y most of them get diseases like aids. useless people.
Olasheni    Riyadh, KSA    April 28, 2007
Firstly, I’m here to thank all that contributed.

This habit is bad and reject in all noble books and in our tradition, unless if you are irresponsible person.
To me, I think we should discuss on how abstain from this bad habit called adultery.

The important thing is that, the both woman and man should please have a little fear of Allah (God) in their dictionary and they must aware of these things:

1-Take good care of your wife/husband I mean try to do all your responsibilities as much as you can.

2-Take good care of yourself, by having good dressing (be good looking, even if you are at home).

3-Ask your wife/husband to be in a good dressing at all-time.

4-Drive away from bad gangs.

5-Stay at home, share ideas, love with your partner.

6-Show your love and your good care to your wife.

7-If you are frustrating (Attracting by a woman) go back to your wife share love with her - as directed by Noble Prophet (SAW)-, this will calm you down.

8-Remember the word of Noble Prophet saying: “as you can never endure bear if you caught your wife exercising that, people would not happy, endure it if they caught you exercising it with their daughter, sister, aunty, house girl talk less of their woman”

9-Always asking guidance of Allah (God).

10-Woman should be unambitious complaisant.

Lastly we are asking Allah to protect us in bad attitudes.
Ettez    Fountain, United States    April 11, 2007
I think that if a women decides to cheat on her boyfriend, husband, etc.

It's because there is something missing at home--the husband or boyfriend or livin companion may have given her everything materialistic but then you have the physical and emotional aspect in the relationship which is very important as well.

One may have all these things but there is always somethings missing, such as working to much or not paying enough attention to the wife sometimes little things that may not be important one person that can be very important to the other.

Sometimes is very important to pay attention to little details. It can be many reasons as to why a women may cheat.

I can say the same for a man if these things are missing in a man's life it may cause him to cheat on his women, too...

The only thing i can say is that yes, this may be a man's world but without us their would be not humanity...We just need to learn to respect each other and love each other wholeheartly....

Pay more attention to detail...There is saying if you do not look out for the growth of your business someone else would--- and would benefit from your business...

Love consist of--Honesty,consideration,compromising,respect,loyalty,diginty,and most of all LOVE!
MUMBA    Glasgow, UK    March 16, 2007
We know that most men cant hold their urge intact even if they have the most beautiful wife at home, the like aventures to boost their egos, in our society men do get away alot with cheating especialy in Africa where ploygamy still rules. I will not expect a woman to believe that what a man can do she too can do it and get away with it. Women are our mothers, they are the home makers that is the difference their unfaithfullness affectts the stabilty of the family instantly b/c they hold a very sacred positon in the family. They may not get away with cheating the way men would, an unfaithful woman is a disgrace to her family and God Iwould rather have an unfaithful father than an unfaitful morher. So please women accept the truth its men'sworld. Women Liberation movements, Please take note.
Ben    Dallas, US    March 15, 2007
There is one thing woman should understand and should get it clear that "This is a man's world", a man can do anything and go free but is not same with women,

so they should stop comparing themselves with we men, from the beginging God had made it that men should be on top always.

If I should catch my wife, she will have a lot of explanation to give me, becos to the best of my knowledge, am taking good care of her, so I dont understand why she should engage in such thing, what is that man giving her that I have not given her or will not give her and even do more.

But I bet her, that will be the end of that relationship, cos i cant share her with another man, she will have to follow her new catch.
Jenny    London, UK    March 15, 2007
Men should be ashame of themsevles for making all those stupid and useless comments,

What if reverse is the case, will their wives also send them packing, beside the ratio of men cheating in a ralationship is alway high, about 95% to 5%,.

So if they should find out that their wives are engage in such thing, this is the time to ask themsevles big question, because if they are taking good care of that women, no woman, I repeat no woman will ever think of cheating on the husband.

Sometimes a woman does that to get back at the husband for cheating on her too, so that him too will feel the pains and hurts of cheating your love one.

So men should pls shut up!
Henry/USA    DALLAS, USA/Nigeria    March 13, 2007
Well spoken by all the men asked. One thing we all need to understand is this, if the case is reversed will you want your woman to divorce you, disgrace you and leave you lonely?

Well, our women, listen to this... It is naturally easier for women to forgive than for men to do same in such situation; may be that's how God created them and us, who knows.

I'm just a young man that just got married, I did a lot for my wife. Paying her tuition, rent, feeding, clothing and bringing her to States for the second Six months I met her/ started dating.

Now if, I see her cheating......that's quite a high crime for her, it spells a lot of words. So you see, most men, look at these things when they see their women cheating!

Yu know some men go as far as disobeying their parents, being in enemity with their families just to marry or be with their wives. So, when the said wife cheats.....their mind is slaughtered!!!

I really don't know what I will do if that happens. I just pray that it never happens. Those who will forgive will forgive those that don't, I really can't judge them.

Once again, it depends on how much the man has sacrificed for his wife. So, also, if a woman spends all her money on a man she loves. Put the man through school, paid his rent, clothed and fed him, after which he cheats on him....well, heart of an angry women............you can complete that.

Let us all try to avoid it than to resolve it. Yes, ot err is human, to forgive is divine; but untill your hands get burnt, then you decides what to do.
Tope    Ikeja, Nigeria    March 13, 2007
Thats how God has made, we met it to be so that men has the power over their wife/wives. So, if reverse is the case, she will/may forgive easily.
Naija Babe    , U.S.A    March 13, 2007
As una men dey run mouth with una double standard nonsense dey say una no go forgive una wife if she cheats on you and blah blah blah, make una also realize that for a woman to even think about cheating on her husband, nah em be say the husband must be a very very very useless man and not taking care of his wife well both in the bedroom and financially self!

If you want your wife not to cheat on you, take care of her, treat her like the queen she is and I can guarantee you, she would not even think of opening her legs for any other men.

If you are not doing any of this, you better be ready to forgive if she cheats! Nonsesnse..we put up with all the atrocities you men commit, I no blame una…no be una fault!
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