In my view there are many sides to every person and the trip of it is that very few people know all the sides to them. So sometimes we meet people and they seem so sweet and nice for a while and then after some time they act like monsters and then you wonder if the sweet side was all about pretending.
But it's not always so; yes there are those who do pretend but a majority of people don't realize certain sides they have until circumstances bring it out.
You know, like you never know you have the ability to kill until you're in a life or death situation and circumstances like that. Or better still, you never know you can love till you fall in love.
So when we have friends who used to be real sweet and nice turn rather
cold and mean we shouldn't be quick to judge them because it may just be that the pressure they are facing has broken them.
When we see people back out of relationships we may never know what they went through.
All of us break under pressure, but it's just the amount of pressure that differs.
Sometimes we do things that we find hard to believe but we need not condemn ourselves for those things because it happens to everyone. The most important thing is realizing and accepting that we have this sad abilities and working really hard to change and control them.
But first, we must recognize these traits in us, recognize and accept that they are in us.
Until we do that we really can't progress becauses like it's been said "he who knows not and knows he knows not is a wise man" and recognizing is the first and most important step. Only then can we progress to try and change them.
Changing is hard to do.
Nobody really likes change, but if we realize that it will take a lot of time and perseverance then we can see it through. We must try real hard to control it and not just go like "that's who
I am" which in my perception is an indolent statement.
Everyone must be in control of their emotions any one who can't control his emotions becomes a slave of his emotions and therefore can't really be considered a complete being.
Our emotions are just a part of us, we are the whole and so part cannot control the whole, the whole must be in control of every part in order for everything to work well. In order to be complete, to prove that we (that is we as human beings) are in control, we must first control that tiny weeny part of us that can be rather destructive - our emotions!
It's not easy and there'll be many fallbacks, but step-by-step we'll get to the top.
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In my view there are many sides to every person and the trip of it is that very few people know all the sides to them. So sometimes we meet people and they seem so sweet and nice for a while and then after some time they act like monsters and then you wonder if the sweet side was all about pretending.